For now though, I want to share with you an overriding message that keeps coming to me as we venture into this year that so many have been prophesying about.

The theories about 2012 range from the world coming to an end, to a new world power going into place that will overtake us all, global weather catastrophes, the second coming of Christ and much more.

I’d like to throw in my own prophecy, one that I think could help us all much more than any of the theories focused on anything outside of ourselves.

Bear with me because this might sound a little out there (especially coming from a Jewish girl who couldn’t say the word “God” without nearly gagging until about 6 years ago), but I urge you to hear it with your heart and not your mind.

The second coming of Christ is here, now.  We really are the ones.

No matter your religion or whether you believe in the existence of the physical being of Jesus the Christ at all (I was personally raised to believe that Jesus the person may not have even existed), Christ Consciousness lives within each of us, right now.

2012 is the year we will collectively wake up to this consciousness within ourselves, no longer feel the need to project it outward and instead begin living from this consciousness in our own lives.

Christ Consciousness has been described many ways, here are a few that help me to understand it more:

“Christ consciousness is the state of awareness of our true nature, our higher self, and our birthright as children of God. Christ consciousness is our living expression as a child of Spirit as we unfold our own divine life plan onto the earth plane: bringing heaven to earth. Living in the reality of our “christed” self is actually being fully alive and invested in who we truly are. In our “christed” self we live as inspiration for others to seek this for themselves so we can collectively move our planet forward into the divine plan for planetary transformation and glorification.” from the Center for Christ Consciouness

For you left brain intellectuals reading this, let’s examine this together.

You agree we have a higher self and a lower self, right? You can feel that within you, yes?  I know I can, even when I am totally up in my head.  And Christ Consciousness is simply the awareness of that higher self.

I believe that so many of us are working toward “being fully alive and invested in who we truly are.” This is the pursuit of purpose, meaning and fulfillment.

We put many things in our way — money, conflict, ego to name a few.

But, when you examine your true desires, do these words of aliveness, living who you truly are, and connection to to something greater than your small self resonate with what you really want above all?

Christ consciousness = alignment, atonement (at-one-ment), and a recognition that there is no more need for discord, disharmony, or separation.  We really are all in this together. And we can love each other through whatever comes our way.

I see people waking up to this truth all around me and as they do, their lives change, regardless of their circumstances.

My intention is to bring you examples of these awakenings throughout 2012.

In the meantime, I would feel absolutely fulfilled if you would share your own examples of Christ Consciousness, awakening, and coming into connection with your own higher self. How do you do it? How do you know you are connected?  Where do you see examples we can all connect to around you?

Writing about Christ Consciousness is seriously edgy for me.  As I mentioned earlier, it was not so long ago when saying the word God made me choke.  And yet, I know in the deepest place of my being that this consciousness is available to all of us right now and it will change the world.

It’s so easy to misunderstand, but I deeply trust this message and this truth, so I will take the risk of speaking in this language because I believe your heart, your spirit, your soul is ready to receive this message, even if our collective minds are not.

If this does resonate with you, please help me spread the word of this message of hope so we can rally around the good, the true and the beautiful.  It will take all of us.

Those words so do not represent the reality of what’s happening though.

A break up suggests a complete break, separation and end.  That is not what the new paradigm is about at all.  It’s about transition and transformation.

Far more than a break up, I see it simply as a change in the nature of our relationship.  As of this moment, it looks like we will continue working together, we will both be at Eden holding space to birth the new paradigm of conscious business and we still love each other totally.

We are simply not a match when it comes to living together, raising children and doing day to day life together.  Yes, I know that many of you nodding your head saying “well, you should have figured that out before you got married.”  Perhaps yes, perhaps no.

I know that without a shadow of a doubt everything happened exactly as it was supposed to.

It had to happen exactly as it did for the next evolution of each of our souls.  My relationship with Russell guided me to let go to another level of surrender and ushered in the transformation that was blossoming.

In the old paradigm, when you ended a relationship, it was over.  Kaput. Finished.  Get the heck out and don’t come back, right?

Not anymore.  Times, they are a-changing.

Now, we are realizing that the end of a relationship really isn’t the end anymore.  It’s merely another step in the transformation.

I have long been friends with my ex-husband, co-parenting our kids together, even though we have not been romantically involved in more than 6 years now.  Yes, there have been some rocky times, but our divorce hasn’t made me love him any less.  If anything, our being apart has allowed me to appreciate him more.

My ex-boyfriend from right after my divorce lives on my farm, helps take care of my children and is taking the lead on creating a sustainable sanctuary at the farm.

Ex does not have to mean out of your life.  Quite the contrary, your ex’s can become your very best friends.  Here’s how:

1. Start off planning for the end, right from the beginning and create conscious agreements.

Not because you are a pessimist jinxing the relationship, but because you are a realist and know that we live in a highly evolving time, which means that any relationship you are in now will almost certainly transform at least once and possibly even more often during your lifetime.

My nearly 4-year relationship with Dave transitioned so easily because we had clear, conscious, awake agreements.  Part of what led to mine and Russell’s clarity that we were not a match was that as we entered into the agreement process we could not come to agreement on many things without painful power struggles that were not sustainable long-term.

It’s what I love about the agreement process – you discover if you are in a relationship that can really be successful long-term early on and do not end up blindsided after deep entanglements that are hard to release.  I do recommend you do this agreement process before you get married, not afterward like I did, whenever possible.  But, if you cannot, do it as quickly as possible.

2. Keep an open heart through the relationship transition process.

Of course, as your relationship is transitioning you want to close down, protect, preserve what is yours.  You do not have to do that.  It’s a choice you make in every moment and I urge you to please make the choice toward more love, more generosity, more giving.

I truly believe that my unwillingness to fight during my divorce and instead to give in and pay my husband more child support and alimony than a court would have likely required is part of what allowed me to make $1mm in my law firm for the first time the year of the divorce.

Open more, give more, expand more, forgive more.

3. Learn, Evolve, Grow, Transform and Wake Up!

One of the things Russell and I were most in alignment about is that we are not on this planet to be in relationship, we are here to evolve our souls, to become more of who we are and wake up to the truth of our existence.

Relationship is just one of the many vehicles we are given for that evolution.

Use your relationship transition to receive more clarity about yourself.  It can certainly help you to know what you no longer want, which can shed light on what you do want.

And, it can help you to see the blind spot and shadows you have been holding on to that keep you from being all of who and what you are.  If you do not blame your partner, become a victim to the circumstance or avoid the reality of what this relationship transition is showing you.

If you are in the midst of a relationship transition right now yourself, ask yourself how you can show up as more of who you are throughout it and then be that.  Use it as fuel for your transformation.

If you are not sure what to say after reading this and want to reach out to either me and Russell, I invite you to reach out with the same love and congratulations you did when you heard about our marriage.  Yes, congratulations for letting go with love, congratulations for not staying stuck in the shit, congratulations for evolving to yet another level of our relationship.

I welcome your congratulations on this new stage of my evolution!

PS – lest you think any of this just applies to personal or romantic relationship, it does not; it all applies exactly equally to each and everyone of your business relationships.

The world is transforming rapidly. I’m sure you can feel the evolutionary impulse quickening. And if you can’t, it’s very likely because you have shut down in numbness as a reaction to how much it all is to take in.

Numbness is not the answer, not in the emerging paradigm.

The answer is for us to get really good at handling whatever comes our way by activating the super powers that turn on when we wake up to what’s really going on and start living in deep integrity, alignment and congruence with reality.

Superpowers, training, waking up, congruence with reality … these words may be triggering your skepticism.  I understand.

My natural state is that of skeptic, but I’ve noticed that skepticism keeps me from truly loving my life, growing, stretching and receiving.

When I don’t believe, I do not receive. It’s as simple as that. When I let go of my disbelief and allow myself to relax into the possibility, magic shows up in my life. Again and again.

What has shown up now is a community of people who are modeling a new reality, one I never would have believed if I was not experiencing it for myself.

If you are ready to experience this new reality yourself, join us. Get into training now.

Train yourself to be as physically and emotionally prepared as possible for whatever comes your way.

Become a ninja who can kick the ass of every challenge thrown at you.

Move beyond survival and into surthrival (a word coined by Daniel Vitalis who started a company by the same name that guides people to thrive under all circumstances).

The healthier we are, both physically and emotionally, the more likely it will be that we can survive the stress, toxicity, and conflict that is escalating.  Circumstances may get really bad and we will be prepared and able to handle all of it.

So, what is this training?

• Get free from relying on big corporations or the government for anything – your food, your pension, your job;
• Learn to create and trade value, no matter what the state of our currency is;
• Get as healthy as possible, emotionally and physically, so you can withstand any and all level of toxins, no matter whether they come on the physical or emotional plane.

Whether you can see it or not, you are already in training now.  Every circumstance, every experience, everything that is happening around you is a gift given to you so you can wake up and get free.

As soon as you can begin to see these circumstances (which may appear quite uncomfortable) as gifts, it will all begin to shift and you will be ready for the next level.

So, if you are ready to say yes to the training of your life, take the first step now.

1. Make a list of all the ways it feels like you are not getting what you want, like you are being hurt, challenged, in conflict, and frustrated.

2. Look at each one and ask yourself what you can let go of now that you are holding on to as a way of trying to control the situation.

3.  Write down your commitment to let go and stop trying to make something happen or be different.

4.  Thank the Universe, spirit, God or whatever you call it for giving you this experience so you can practice forgiveness, expansion, love, trust and letting go.

5.  Breathe.

And do me a favor, if you are joining us, comment below and let me know.  And let me know what you are letting go of today.

Bill is very likely more tapped into the collective consciousness than just about anyone I have ever met.

He has sold more personal development programs than possibly anyone currently living and deeply knows and understands human nature.

I was checking out his blog tonight and found this post on the state of our world and where we are going titled Going to Hell in a Handbasket that is extremely in line with my recent posts about preparation for our next evolution.

While Bill and I did not talk about any of this at dinner last night, I am not surprised to read these posts because he is one of those people who I tend to meet periodically that I just know have at least some of the answers for our future.

For those of you who wanted more information and guidance about what’s coming and what to do, I cannot imagine anyone better to help us get into reality and figure out what to do than Bill Harris.

Make sure to read part two of his post series as well.  I’m eagerly awaiting part 3 that will help us see through the potential for depression in the face of these harsh realities.

Bottom line that you will hear from both me and Bill in these posts is that we can no longer keep our eyes closed to what’s real and true.

Accept reality as it is and from there we can come together and transform it.  But, we’ll never do it if we pretend it’s not real.  This is not fear-mongering.  This is willingness to see the truth of what is really happening.

The reality is that we are moving into a both/and paradigm. The world is crumbling around us AND we can save it.  But, not if we keep our eyes closed to it.

I use work in quotes here because I really do mean both aspects of work, the inner work of the emotional upset and the outer work of putting your Great Work into service.

I know many of my clients struggle with this … staying in service to the outer work when the inner work is raging.  And it’s one of the things I’m best able to help them with because I’ve dealt with it so much in my own life.

I’ve experienced a lot of turmoil over the years.  Inner conflict, outer conflict.  And I’ve worked through all of it.

It first became a big issue for me when I was going through my divorce while at the same time building my law firm.

I found that back then I could use work as an escape from the emotional upset.  The more he triggered me, the more I focused my energy and attention on work.

To do that, I numbed out.  I didn’t feel the feelings that were coming up. I avoided them.

Now that I am becoming more and more in touch with my emotional body, I am finding it more difficult to focus on work when I am experiencing conflict or emotional upset.

Putting my head down and focusing on work doesn’t seem to work anymore.

I’m supposed to be writing copy. Lots of copy. Copy for the big call I’m hosting on 12/31 about building a business around your Great Work, copy for my new Eyes Wide Open Action Guide, copy for my next Powerful Feminine Leader group, copy, copy, copy and I find myself unable to focus due to some emotional stuff I’m working through.

Where I used to become MORE focused on work around emotional upset and conflict, now I find myself less creative, less able (or willing) to push through.

My mind tells me this is a problem. “Danger, danger … this is why I’ve helped you with the numbness.  Why’d you have to go screw it all up by dropping our defenses?”  it yells at me.

My body says “go take a bath and relax.”  There will be plenty of time to write later.  Take some time to feel your sadness, be with it, bring tenderness to it.  See what happens when you do that.  Maybe your writing will be even better and come even more easily.

So that’s what I’m going to do. Even though my mind says to push through like I’ve always done and get back to work.

I’m going to take some time for the inner work and trust it’ll enhance how I’m able to bring my Great Work to the world.

So what about you?

How do you “work” through conflict and emotional upset?  I’d love to hear.

As I’m terming it, your Great Work is the divine combination of your inner work and your outer work.

Your inner work … the work you do on yourself to grow, to evolve your soul, to wake up to what’s real and true for you, to break free of the illusion.

You outer work … the way you put that work into service in the world.

Maybe you’ve heard the saying that is attributed to Richard Bach in Illusions and is well-illustrated by Mike Robbins personal life experience …  “we teach best what we most need to learn.”

And that my friend is where you find your Great Work.  The thing you were custom-designed to bring to the planet.

You find it in the lessons you most need to learn and continue to practice in your own life.

There is no better way to learn, evolve and grow from and with our most important lessons than by teaching those lessons and building a sustainable business model around doing it.

Every experience you’ve been given throughout your life – both “good” and “bad” – is  a gift to prepare you for what you are individually custom designed to bring.

Your Great Work incorporates what Gay Hendricks calls Your Zone of Genius in his book the Big Leap.  Dan Sullivan refers to it as your Unique Ability.  I’ve called it your Creative Genius.

When you are doing your Great Work, you are living all of that.

Are you ready to say yes to your Great Work? If so, do you know what it is yet? Have an inkling?  Or are you still just beginning to sense there may be something out there you were born to bring to the world?

I’d love to hear what it is for you and where you are with it.

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I’m hosting a free call on discovering and living your Great Work on Thursday, December 2, 2010.  Call details go out to those of you who are on my list, so please make sure to opt-in by requesting my Life and Business Growth Kit up in the upper right corner.  We’ll be sending the call-in details out everyday between now and Thursday AND sending the recording to those of you who couldn’t make it on Friday.  I’d love to “see” you there!  If you can be there live, do – I’ll be taking questions.

My friend and fellow burner Cameron Herold (who is one of the guys I consider “real business dudes who are amazingly cool too”) is writing a book.  He asked me to take a look at a couple of chapters.

Honestly, before I started reading, I was kind of thinking ho-hum, there’s nothing new out there.  I was sort of expecting to be bored.

Two pages in and my awareness was shifted completely.

One minute I’m all “I already know that” (4  most dangerous words in the human language) and the next I can see exactly how my inability to see up until this moment has made leadership so difficult for me.

And that it really doesn’t have to be as hard as I’ve been making it.  For years, I’ve taught that creating life on your terms all starts with knowing what you want and painting the picture of it. Many teachers teach this – think vision boarding and the Secret.

But Cameron has added a whole nother level of practicality for actually doing that based on principles of leadership and real business that blows the lid off completely.

I’ll let you know as soon as Cameron’s ready to share the book so I can tell you more about it.  It’s really good.

Tomorrow, we will pull out of Hermosa Beach and head toward the Rockies with two U-Hauls, 5 adults (including my ex-husband and my boyfriend), 2 kids, a dog, 3 cats, a snake and a turtle.

Thank God I’ve got two years of Burning Man under my belt as practice.

I’m quite surprised about how shaken up I am by this whole move.  Although everyone I talk to says it’s totally normal and I know it is, I’m still surprised.

The move is bringing me the opportunity to confront all the  pieces of myself that I don’t love and adore.  And most importantly, to see them.

There’s so much that we hide from ourselves.  And it all comes up during any period of transition and transformation.

What’s coming up for me now is the awareness that I am deeply motivated by the desire to have a certain community of people around me.

I moved to a Hermosa Beach walkstreet because I wanted to raise my kids in community.  I wanted to live somewhere in which the kids could run back and forth to their friends’ houses without constant adult supervision.  An open door policy in which my neighbor’s kids would become as comfortable with me as my own kids and my kids would look to the neighbors as second parents.

When I first moved to Hermosa, I lived on 17th street, one of the walkstreets where community is facilitated by no cars driving on the street in front of the houses.

There were two families on the street that had been there for more than 50 years.  The adults living there now had all grown up as kids on the street (and in the houses) where they were now raising their own kids.

Over the years, those friends had turned into each other’s  family.

It’s always been what I wanted.  A family by choice.  An extended group of people who become family, are  committed to supporting each other and working together for the benefit of the whole.  Each person contributing his and her highest gifts to the community and relaxing into the awareness that her or she is part of a greater village working toward a common vision.

Raising kids, cooking meals, relaxing, and growing together.  People who share my values.  That I want my kids to be guided by and learning from.

When I really look at why I am moving to Colorado, I’m heading off in search of that village.

My mind begins to wonder why I didn’t create it here and what will be different there.

There are three families on my street, all of whom have kids Kaia and Noah’s age, all of whom go to the private school Kaia and Noah used to go to.

On the surface, the village I’m looking for is right here.

But, we don’t seem to fit with these families.

They are nice enough, but I don’t see them ever feeling like real I’ve got your back no matter what family.  They aren’t people I could practice Radical Honesty with or talk about evolution of the spirit and truth and awareness with.  They seem to like living behind the veil. Or at least, it’s all they know and they seem happy enough to keep it on.

I’m ready to pull off the veil.  And so I’m leaving.

My mind says I’m crazy.  I should make it work here.  If I can’t make it work here, I won’t make it work anywhere.  It’s the same everywhere.  Wherever you go, there you are.  Stick it out.  Push through.

But, then I remember back to being at the big law firm.

I had many of these same thoughts then.  You are crazy to think about leaving.  People would kill for that job. Are you insane?  Make it work.  If you can’t make it work here, you won’t make it work anywhere.  This is just what life is like.  Wherever you go, there you are.  Stick it out.  Push through.

The exact same thoughts.  A pattern.  Conditioning.  Had I listened to them, I’d still be there, unhappy, wondering what’s wrong with me.  But, hanging in.

As soon as I left the big law firm, I found a freedom unlike anything I had ever experienced before.  I didn’t run out of money.  I didn’t die.  Instead, I was free.

That freedom led to where I am today.  I can pick up and move to a completely different State.  I don’t have to worry about finding a new job. I don’t have to worry about taking vacation time to pack and move.  I don’t have to worry that I won’t be able to make a living where I am going.

The only restriction on me today is my mind.  It sometimes still wants to hold me back, keep me safe, convince me that if only I changed, I would find out that what I’m looking for has been here all along.

But, here’s what I know.  Something is pulling me to Colorado.

It’s something as big as the freedom that came through when I left my paycheck and started my own business.  It’s something as big as the freedom that showed up when I left my husband and re-discovered the freedom of being a woman again.

I have a feeling it’s that I will finally find the community I’ve been looking for.  The community that becomes family.  The community that sees me exactly as I am, recognizes me and says yes, you are one of ours.   We’ve been waiting for you.

Image courtesy of Flickr

I’ve never fit in.

I can remember all the way back to Kindergarten wondering why the other little girls didn’t like me?  Why I couldn’t seem to get along with the other kids.

I wanted to.  I just couldn’t seem to figure out the right things to say at the right times.

This awareness that I wasn’t like everyone else followed me throughout my life.  In high school, it was a big problem.  A painful problem.  One I dealt with by turning to the kids who I thought would accept me no matter what – the ones on the corner smoking cigarettes before and after school.   My parents loved that, let me tell you.

In college, it seemed to abate for a while and I even joined a sorority (something I said I would never, ever, ever in a million years do), but of course it was the sorority for the girls who didn’t fit in.  I actually had the chance to join the popular pretty girl sorority, but made the choice to go where I’d feel more comfortable.

In law school, I dealt with not fitting in by studying constantly. That was good because it resulted in me graduating first in my class, which opened up every possible door for me for the rest of my life.  And then I went to the big law firm, where once again I didn’t fit in.

I was a 26-year old wife and mom.  It was one of the loneliest times of my life.  I remember sitting on the beach with my baby looking longingly at the other moms with their babies hanging out together.  I didn’t have any friends with babies. I couldn’t figure out how to make friends with the other moms.

Eventually, I figured it out.  I’m different than most people.  I’ve finally stopped asking why and accepted it.  I stopped only wanting to be friends with people who don’t want to be friends with me (the “in” crowd) and started appreciating the people who seem to be attracted to me (“misfits”).

And once I figured that all out, I began to have this desire for fame on a big level.  Because I wanted to make a difference (or so I thought).

So I began to make myself into someone who could appear on TV.  It turns out, I’m one of those people who actually looks better on TV than in real life, so this was not so difficult for me to do.

I did quite a bit of television in a relatively short period of time.  Then, I started to pitch television shows to the networks and got really close to having one picked up by the new Oprah Winfrey Network.  That was really exciting.  Until it didn’t happen.

Then I began thinking about a reality show.  (And let me tell you, it would have been a good one with all the craziness that has happened here at my house over the last 18 months.)

Fortunately, before I could ruin my life by letting cameras follow me around all the time, I became aware that the whole pursuit of fame was feeding something not particularly healthy in me.  I couldn’t put my finger on what it was, but I knew it didn’t feel good.

It started to become clear when I did all of the Michael Jackson coverage.  I began to see I wasn’t really making a difference in the world and helping people with the media I was doing.

I was spreading rumors and gossip.

Sure, it was public and not behind anyone’s back, but was it really any less insidious?

I put it out of my mind because I liked getting all dressed up and putting on makeup and getting picked up by a car service and feeling special.  So I kept doing it.

A couple of weeks ago though, I was on Nancy Grace talking about Tiger Woods and it was the last straw.  I cannot do it anymore.

I took 2.5 hours out of my day to get my hair done, get driven down to CNN on Sunset and get my makeup done and then sit in a chair for an hour watching Nancy run the same clip of one of Tiger’s girlfriends saying she was sorry if she hurt anyone over and over and over again at each break.

I was on for less than 2 minutes with half of that time Nancy asking me inane questions I  like “When did he [Tiger Woods] have time to be with all those women with two children?”

How was this a good use of my time?

I searched for anything I could hang my hat on that would indicate my appearance on the show made a shred of positive impact in the world.  No matter how hard I looked, I couldn’t find anything.  And I had to admit to myself that I wasn’t really there to make a difference in the world, I was there to be noticed, recognized, and fit in.  Just like the article said.

I refuse to allow my life to be run by that anymore.

So I’m taking a stand.  For now on, I will not do any television unless I’m totally clear that I’m doing it because it will help to lift viewers to a new level of awareness.  I will not contribute to the inane dialogue, gossip and drama that is being perpetuated with most of today’s television programming.

Part of the reason I think I’m moving to Colorado is so I won’t be tempted.  Because believe me, every fiber of my being is screaming out that I’m making a mistake, that I’m meant to be on TV.

I do believe I’ve been given a gift of looking great on camera, being able to convey a message quickly, and think on my feet.  And I do not want to waste or deny that gift.  But, it will need to be utilized in some way that does not make me feel dirty afterward and that is driven by my highest level desires to make a real difference in the world and raise people to a new level of awareness.

So bye-bye Nancy Grace.  Please don’t call again.  I’m not available.

Photo courtesy of AP

Within recent months, it has all started to become more clear than ever before.

I recently began working with Tim Kelley, author of the book “True Purpose”. What’s interesting is I thought I had already found my life purpose and was doing it.

And yet, I felt drawn to Tim’s work.  What I now see is that his work is taking me to another, much deeper level of my purpose.

I can now see that every single thing that has ever happened in my life, both those things I deemed to be “good” and those things I deemed to be “bad”, all happened to prepare me to fulfill my purpose as I now understand it in this moment.

Suddenly, it all makes sense.

There was a part of me that always knew this day was coming and I would occasionally catch enough of a glimpse of the future to know it was possible that one day I would really and truly get how everything fit together.

I’m grateful that it’s finally here.

Years of frustration, wonder, worry, uncertainty and fear have evaporated.  There are still threads left, but 90% of the concern has disappeared from my awareness.

Ok, so now I’m going to tell you what I now understand to be my purpose, even though I feel slightly embarrassed when I write it out like this.

I am here to shine the light into the dark corners of your business and your life with absolute and total love, acceptance and support.

I make the hard things easier.

Specifically, at this moment in time, I am focusing this purpose around business by helping people take a look at the things we all avoid because they are hard – the difficult conversations, the business of your business, the financials, the legal stuff, the employee stuff, the partnership stuff, the pending business break-up.

You know, the hard parts of being a business owner.  The stuff I can’t stand either.  Office politics, drama, conflict.  Ick.

I take the ick out and help you to discover how whatever is happening in your business is your greatest opportunity for growth.

You really want to be a conscious business owner?  For real?

Then, you’ve got to open your eyes, wake up to the truth.  Shine the light into the darkness.  The part you’ve been avoiding because it’s too hard, painful, difficult, embarrassing, shameful, guilt-ful, to look at.

When you are willing to open your eyes and shine the light into the dark corners, you will naturally run your business from a more expanded and enlightened perspective.

It’s hard to be enlightened and aware with your eyes closed and the lights off, right?

Decisions become much easier. You no longer worry about getting taken advantage of or what’s real and what’s not.  When you can see, you know.

Boundaries are easily established and conflicts are handled with an open heart.

Wow, it feels great to finally get all this.  These, of course, are my personal greatest life lessons so far.

6 years ago, I was attending a workshop held by one of my early coaches.  Scott had brought in a purpose expert named Kevin M McCarthy, author of the On Purpose Person.  And he walked us through a process to help us discover our own purpose.

What came through to me back then made no sense in the context of my life at the time.  I had just started my own law firm.  I was committed to being a lawyer.  Helping my clients.  Making a difference in their lives.

But, when I did Kevin’s process, I discovered my purpose was to “Shine the Light?!?”  Huh?

WTF?

I was a lawyer.  I didn’t know how to shine no stinkin’ light.  What was I supposed to do with that?  Shine the light?!? Um, ok.

But, there was a part of me that knew that was it and one day I’d figure out what it meant.

For the past 6 years, I’ve continued to put one foot in front of the other, learning how to move with my energy and get out of my own way.  It’s been a learning process for sure.  But, each step fo the way I trusted that if I just kept asking the right questions and moving forward, I’d one day get it.

And now I do.

Are you ready to know it too?  I know you are.  And you know you want it.

To begin, start to ask yourself what you’ve been avoiding.  What are the conversations you’ve had in your head, but you have held back from having with the person they really need to be with?  What are the things you know you need to do in your business, but haven’t done because they seem too hard?

Make a list of those things.  Bring them to awareness.  That’s all you have to do now.  It’s the first step and in some ways the most difficult.