The Whole Truth

Meet Me (All of Us)

   Business Priestess,
Truth-Telling Lawyer,
Evolutionary Strategist + Catalyst

 

Back in 2006, I attended one of famed business strategist Michael Gerber‘s first iterations of “In the Dreaming Room.” As we each shared who we were and what we are up to in the world, Michael shot each person down as “not a real entrepreneur.”

When he got to me, he said “now you, you are an entrepreneur.”

I was pleased.  And he was right.

I love the world of business.  And relationships.  And creating something out of nothing.  Re-inventing, re-imagining and making things better.

I’ve invented a New Law Business Model.  My partner and I are guiding evolutionary entrepreneurs to create new economy business models of your own, so you can really live free, or as I say sovereign.

My highest value is sovereignty. Followed closely by total, authentic, tranparent, truthful, no holds-barred creative expression.  And desire (I now pronounce desire a value.)

The 4-women you see pictured above are some of the various aspects of me. Alexis Neely, hard core business woman, lawyer, queen. Ali Shanti, business priestess, lover, friend.

My intention is to support you to build a business model (price, package and offer your services, products, programs and/or packages) around your work (your Great Work, your work just for now, your work that pays the bills) in such a way that you are able to be all of you without compromise.

Most people build their business models unconsciously. I did.  I looked around at what everyone else who appeared successful was doing and did that. I was  wildly successful and beyond miserable. Trapped. Stuck. Sad. Lonely.

Sure, I had loads of online friends, fans and followers.  But my relationship with my kids was in the dump, my in-person community sucked and I was stuck behind my computer 12-15 hours a day, every day and quickly losing passion for my work.

So in January 2010, I shook it all up. I quit doing TV, moved to Colorado, broke up with my then boyfriend/business partner, fired my whole team and set out to discover what I really wanted, who I really am and how I really want to do my work in the world.

It’s been illuminating.  And liberating. And fucking scary.

This blog is where I share the inside look at my transformation into a totally new way of being in the world.  The new paradigm literally feels as if it’s being birthed through me.  And yes, it’s just as painful as real childbirth sometimes.

Today …

  • I’m living, working and loving in community — more free than I have ever been before — after having worked through loads of intimacy issues and continuing to burn through even more on a regular basis.
  • I gave up my credit score and released $500,000 of debt (after facing a whole lot of shame, guilt and fear) so I could make a far bigger net positive contribution to the world than I would have if I had kept working a stressful, “work-like-a-mad-woman-doing-less-than-my-purpose” business model just so I could pay it off.
  • I liberated my IRA (and shifted my investments from stock funds I was totally disconnected from to a business I am intimately familiar with and beyond excited to support).
  • I create content and strategy for two online businesses — one serving lawyers and one serving non-lawyer entrepreneurs — from wherever I happen to be and whenever I feel like working. I decide.
  • I speak at festivals (wearing full on Business Priestess gear) about evolutionary entrepreneurship, new paradigm relationships, and financial liberation instead of legal conferences now.  It’s way more fun.
  • I have a great relationship with my kids and they are known to be the sweetest kids around (which is huge because that was NOT the case a couple of years ago when I was stuck in the matrix).
  • My business and life partner, Craig, is the man I always dreamed I would be in primary relationship with.  He shows up, does his internal work, takes responsibility for himself and loves me beyond the beyond.  And we fight. Of course we do. For the most part, I like the way we do it — and we are learning how to do it better.
  • I practice orgasmic meditation. (Meditation never felt so good!)
  • I feel better than ever in my body, though I could really use a massage right now.
  • My ex-husband lives with me and we co-parent our children together.
  • I am not lonely anymore, ever.
  • And on most days (9 out of 10), I absolutely, totally and completely love my life. {Yes, there are still times I’m hating it, but they are much farther and fewer between than they ever have been.}
  • I say no a lot more now — and I totally go for it when it’s a yes.
  • I’ve got a revenue model that supports me in the life I really want to live, without compromise, and allows me to be all of who I am — Alexis Neely, Ali Shanti, completely and totally me.

Life isn’t perfect, but what fun would that be?!? Growth comes as we allow ourselves to stretch into the discomfort and hit our edges.  That’s where I love to live. On the edge. The razor’s edge.  Because that’s where I find truth.

I would love to hear about where you find yours.

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Here’s my semi-official bio (with some non-official stuff thrown in for good measure):

I graduated from Georgetown Law School in 1999 (1st in my class baby), where I was an Olin Law and Economics Fellow, and wrote a paper on why women shouldn’t cohabitate with men without marriage (or at least property rights) titled “No More Free Milk.”  My male teachers didn’t like it one bit.  Fortunately, the grades in my other classes were good enough that it didn’t keep from graduating #1 in the class.  One day, I’ll return to that paper, update it and publish it.

I went on to clerk for Judge Peter T. Fay on the 11th Circuit Court of Appeals in Miami and gave birth to my first child, a girl, 3 months into my clerkship. Lucky for me, the clerkship wasn’t hugely busy and I spent a lot of that year online meeting other moms because at 26, I didn’t know anyone else with kids.  That’s when I first decided that the best job in the world for me would be spending my days chatting online, which is now how I actually do support my family.  It took 10 years for me to break free of the idea that I was wasting my life if I didn’t keep lawyering and allow myself to make that a reality.

I began my formal lawyer career as an associate at the AmLaw #1 law firm of Munger, Tolles & Olson, which was founded by Charlie Munger, Warren Buffett’s right hand for all business decisions.  At Munger Tolles, I did legal work for people like Warren Buffett, Michael Eisner, and many other ultra-wealthy families in the estate planning and corporate tax department, learning the ins and outs of the financial system and wealth-building.  What I saw disgusted me, frankly.  But I learned a tremendous amount and I’ve only just begun to talk about the lessons I learned there and how they can help you to break free of the conditioning, fear, shame and guilt that is likely keeping you from living the dream life you’ve always known was possible.

In 2003, after giving birth to my 2nd child, I left Munger to start my own law firm.  I knew nothing about business, but within just 3 years I built my law practice into a firm generating more than a million dollars a year of revenue by creating a new law business model.  Clients loved it, I didn’t.  I knew I wasn’t here to serve people one on one so I made the hardest decision of my life and sold my law firm so I could focus 100% of my energy on training other lawyers on this new law business model.

In 2007, I began teaching that model to other lawyers through my Personal Family Lawyer program. In 2008, I wrote the bestselling book on legal planning for parents.  It’s called “Wear Clean Underwear” because your mom always told you to wear clean underwear in case you are in an accident, but once you are a parent, wearing clean underwear alone is not enough; there are important legal planning steps you need to take as well to make sure your kids are taken care of if anything happens to you.

That year, I also began appearing on all of the top television shows, such as the Today Show, Good Morning America, O’Reilly Factor and Nancy Grace.  You can see those appearances here and get my official, official bio here on my media site.

At the end of 2009, I woke up to the reality that the “success” I had created was not in alignment with the truth of who I am or why I came here to this planet at this time and  I made a promise to myself to take a good hard look at what I was really creating and not to appear on television again until I could do truly transformation TV.

On Jan. 1, 2010, I left LA and moved to Colorado to investigate a new economy perspective on money, life, and community.  I bought a farm, started a community and it failed.  Now, I live in Boulder (in community) and I’m still in the investigation.  I’m reporting from the trenches so we can all learn from my experiences together.  My one true gift to the world? Total transparency, authentic communication and not hiding.  We’re all in this together. Welcome.