You are absolutely right, you are entitled to the standards you want to see and to expect things to be done how you need them.

On the other hand, the people who work with you also have the right to choose whether or not it also aligns with their own work. It's tough to remember that people have their own choices, so by holding things back, your taking away that choice for them because they aren't really aware of what's going on with you.

So, they may step up to do work within your standards or they may not, but that's up to them (as long as they are honest too and not inwardly grumbling, lol.

As far as complaining, my poor hubby gets a large load of it. He always says to me, “Don't tell me, tell them!!”.

You are absolutely right, you are entitled to the standards you want to see and to expect things to be done how you need them.

On the other hand, the people who work with you also have the right to choose whether or not it also aligns with their own work. It's tough to remember that people have their own choices, so by holding things back, your taking away that choice for them because they aren't really aware of what's going on with you.

So, they may step up to do work within your standards or they may not, but that's up to them (as long as they are honest too and not inwardly grumbling, lol.

As far as complaining, my poor hubby gets a large load of it. He always says to me, “Don't tell me, tell them!!”.

You are so right. It can be difficult for us to complain and rant about stuff sometimes. I think it's because we think it's wrong to have negative feelings. However, these feelings are just as valid as positive feelings, and need to be acknowledged.

I'm not likely to complain about small things, but when it's about something I think is important enough, then I muster the courage to speak up. It definitely isn't easy and I find that I have to write a script in my head before I take the plunge.

You are so right. It can be difficult for us to complain and rant about stuff sometimes. I think it's because we think it's wrong to have negative feelings. However, these feelings are just as valid as positive feelings, and need to be acknowledged.

I'm not likely to complain about small things, but when it's about something I think is important enough, then I muster the courage to speak up. It definitely isn't easy and I find that I have to write a script in my head before I take the plunge.